My Child Doesn't Want to Attend Dance Class Anymore!
"Starts crying every time you enter the studio"
“I don’t like dance anymore.”
“Dance class is boring, mommy.”
We’ve all heard these lines before. Even more so, we’ve
all have been on the receiving end of the embarrassing
but but common crying fits at the classroom door right
before class begins.
Why is this happening? you ask yourself: the weekly battle over “itchy” tights, or all that hard work you did to achieve the perfect ballerina bun just to see it get destroyed before you even get out of the car. Is it worth the fight?
Be of good cheer, parents; we are here to ease your mind!
1. IT’S NORMAL!
You might be tempted to compare your child to other dancers that come to class every week with anticipation and excitement. It's a new environment; new dance mates, new adults. Our instructors are well experienced in handling these situations. Please allow them to work with your dancer to get them acclimated to their new studio.
2. IT’S ONLY A PHASE
Our Director's own daughter, who has been coming to this studio since her birth, to date, still will have a power struggle about attending dance class. She's three. Take heart: this too shall pass!
3. WE ARE HERE TO HELP
Remember that you are not alone and we’ve got your back. We want them to be excited, and we don’t want you to feel stressed about your situation. So here are some tips that we have set aside for you from our past experience that will help you get through this phase:
It’s simple, but it works. When you stress, we take shallow breaths, our muscles tense up, and your dancer will pick up on your tense moments, which they will then mirror.
Show your dancer how much you care, and affirm them, whether or not they enter the dance room. Assure them that you will be in the lobby watching them on the big TV. Your encouragement (without bartering!) will lead to a more confident dancer that are willing to go to class, and maybe even practice at
At ISPA, we love when our parents are involved! We know our dancers perform best when their parents are well-informed about their activities. This doesn’t mean being a “helicopter” parent and taking away their independence. We just ask for parents to take the time to learn with their dancers, practice at home along with them, and cheer them on during performances. Let them know that you saw them while
they participated in class. If the activity is important to you, it will be important to them.
To reduce stress and rushing, arrive to class 5-10 minutes before start time. Avoid missing class unless they’re sick. Skipping just one class disrupts the weekly routine; for older students, they’ll miss needed instruction and possibly fall behind leading to discouragement. Make sure dance wear/tights/shoes are packed and in a dance bag; even place them in the car so not to be rushed and/or forget. Allot specific time for practicing at home just like homework. Preschool dancers will receive a monthly color page each month that will include what they learned that month. This is so you, the parent, learns too even proper dance terminology!
Always remember that YOU the parents are in charge and our children don't run
things. No matter their age, our children will challenge us, defy us, and attempt to ignore us, but we still have the power. When a dancer says they don’t want to prac- tice or go to class, remember that you make the ultimate decision and that the dancer actually needs you to take charge.
We are training them for the real world. If all adults quit their jobs every time they felt like they didn’t want to go to work, nothing would get done. What are we doing to our child’s view on commitment and determination if we let them quit at their first whim of boredom or challenge? Tough love is not a fun place to be as a parent, but it will do our children a world of good for them as they get older.
Whether a dancer is afraid or defiant, we want to help! You know your child best and we want your insight. If you need us to hold your child's hand through the
entirety of class or if you just want us to let your child sit on the side and watch, we will do our very best to make their dance class experience what you and your dancer need it to be.
In our preschool dance classes, we do offer an incentive to being well
behaved & participaing in dance class. We call it "TREASURE". The dancer will be able to choose an item from the TREASURE BOX, but ONLY if they participate in dance class. We know that every day is a learning experience for our dancers, and we know sometimes learning isn’t easy. At ISPA, encouraging people is just as important as creating good dancers.